972. The Perils of Praise, by Wallace Goddard, in Meridian Magazine -- Great article in understanding more about how our children think!
This article helps us understand our children's thinking patterns, and how to bring out the best in them! The Perils of Praise By Wallace Goddard · December 18, 2017 What’s your reaction if I tell you that you are the sweetest, finest, brightest, most talented and beautiful person I have ever known? You will probably have several reactions: It’s nice to be appreciated. It feels good. I’m not sure you know me very well. Or you don’t know the real me. I have lots of faults and limitations. I’ll be a little anxious when I’m around you for fear you will find evidence that your high appraisal of me was mistaken. Or I will choose easy tasks so I can appear to be successful. This last reaction is just what Carol Dweck found in her research with children. When we tell kids how amazing they are, we make them uncomfortable. They don’t want to appear as failures so, in the future, they choose easier tasks. Praise can be disabling. This discovery fit...