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  Dealing with the Collateral Damage of Divorce   By  Jeff Teichert  · May 31, 2022 As you may know by now, we released our long-awaited book, “Intentional Courtship: a Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress, and Pairing up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints,” on November 5 th  2021, just over six months ago. Intentional Courtship contains a lot of counsel and information about coping with loss and recovery from pain and trauma through the power of intention. One of the most unanticipated and difficult consequences of divorce is the impact it has on our relationships with in-laws and mutual friends. Some families and friends handle this well, but most do not. In the church, we have such a dim view of divorce that we tend to subconsciously believe that giving compassion or support to someone getting divorced is condoning divorce. Often this motivates people to stay away or to try to determine who was at fault in the divorce and then take the ot...

This article is the most honest, true, and understandable when it comes to attraction, marriage, commitment, or avoiding a divorce, or "finding the right one" -- for either a man or woman.  IT IS WORTH READING!  What’s Hijacking so Many Beautiful Relationships? By  Jacob Z. Hess  · February 15, 2022 The following first appeared  in Public S quare Magazine . After a hopeful beginning, another marriage crumbles. After feeling  sure  this could really be “the one,” another dating couple breaks up. … Even after two people experience wonderful sweetness and affection together, it’s remarkable how quickly things can disintegrate in heartbreaking fashion. One single man told me:  I have strong feelings initially—buying her flowers, saying sweet nothings, dedicating songs to her, wanting to put a smile on her face all the time, wanting to help her be happier … then, the next minute there is nothing. It’s off immediately, like a light switch. It’s weird, I...