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 This seems to be a helpful article for young adults! Four Bad Ideas that Make Latter-day Saint Dating Stressful By  Maurine Proctor  · August 8, 2022 Let me take you with me for a minute into a Relief Society meeting recently held in a BYU singles ward. My husband Scot and I were teaching and we asked a question that everybody wanted to answer. The young women were clamoring to be called on and the answers spilled out quickly. We asked them what is most stressful to you in your current life—and almost to a person, they said dating and boys. Then we went on. In a world where you have school and finances and big decisions before you, why is dating the most stressful thing? They exploded with answers. “Being in a singles ward sometimes feels like a meat market—like I am competing with everyone for the boy’s attention. I am always wondering if I look good enough or am what boys would want. It makes me feel like I’m always on the line and I have to second guess myself to fit ...

This article may save your marriage!  It is very wise, and I wish I had read something like this early on in my marriage.  We had a large family, and the first 4 were very close in age.  Money and time were taken up with raising those precious children.  Our marriage lasted 60 + years before my dear Wayne passed away on February 21, 2016, but we could have enhanced it with some ideas listed below.  I hope it helps someone! 4 Ways to Keep the Magic Alive in Marriage by Merrilee Boyack  | Jul. 29, 2017 Makes You Think President Kimball counseled, "Many couples permit their marriages to become stale and their love to grow cold like old bread or worn-out jokes or cold gravy. . . . These people will do well to re-evaluate, to renew their courting, to express their affection, to acknowledge kindness, and to increase their consideration so their marriage again can become beautiful, sweet, and growing." His co...

Gospel Questions Teens Have --This was in LDS Living on June 24, 2015. How to Answer Common Gospel Questions Teens Have JOHN HILTON III AND ANTHONY SWEAT - Teenagers constantly ask questions about the gospel. Why does it matter what I wear? Why can’t I date until I’m 16? How can I tell the difference between my own thoughts and feelings and inspired ones from the Holy Ghost? Here are some helpful answers to address some of the “whys.” As religious educators, we get questions from youth all the time. When we set out to write our books  WHY?  and  HOW?  our purpose was to try and answer the types of questions teens most frequently ask us. In this article, we’ll share what we believe are some of the top questions teens ask about the gospel (and, of course, some answers too!). Standards Questions Why does it matter what I wear? While in the Amazon jungle, Anthony went fishing for piranhas with a native guide. All it took was putting some raw...

This article was in LDS Living.  It is quite interesting! One Big Reason Young Mormons Are Afraid of Marriage (And How to Fix It) JENNY SPENCER - JUNE 17, 2015 You may not have even heard of this particular reason why young single adults are delaying marriage, but it's no less powerful. Find out what it is. As a young single adult in the Church, I’ve had a plethora of conversations with friends about why we’re afraid of dating, afraid of commitment, afraid of marriage—or all of the above. Our general Church leaders tell us that it’s the most exquisite and important thing we’ll ever experience in life. And yet, many of us put off the search to find a spouse. We want to be with the absolute best person for us. Keep searching, they say. Don’t settle for anything less than the best, we’re told. We get the same message from the media that surrounds us. If the phone you have is better than the last one you had, then it’s a sure-fire bet that the next phone you ge...

This was based on a BYU Devotional by Elder Jeffrey Holland. D ATING & MARRIAGE 1 10 Love And Dating Lessons We Can Learn From Elder Holland BY  SAMANTHA SHELLEY  · OCTOBER 17, 2014 This article was based on Elder Holland’s BYU devotional, “ How Do I Love Thee ?”. I recommend it to everyone.  1. Dating should not be separated from discipleship. Believe that your faith has everything to do with your romance, because it does. You separate dating from discipleship at your peril.  Jesus Christ , the Light of the World, is the only lamp by which you can successfully see the path of love and happiness. Too often, we allow ourselves to take a different approach to dating than we do the rest of our lives. We allow emotions, lusts, and other things to silence the Spirit, and we believe we have a certain right to be dishonest, or even sometimes mean. While dating is certainly a minefield to navigate, and it’s not always easy to do so ...