Thoughts and stories, by Pal

This lovely article helps us understand true love, which lasts after the "honeymoon is over" stage.  It has great ideas! Elder Robbins: How to Build a Love That Lasts Forever by Elder Lynn G. Robbins, Adapted from his book "Love Is a Choice"  | Feb. 05, 2016 Can one choose to love, or is love something you fall into? Is agency involved, or is love something that just happens to you? If love is something you fall in, how can you act rather than be acted upon? Romantic movies today would have you believe that love is governed by some uncontrollable, ungovernable force—like fate or serendipity. But this simply isn’t reality. Falling in and out of love is no more real than Cupid or Prince Charming. While the expression “to fall in love” is a beautiful idiom, there are inherent risks involved in using the verb fall because it implies that love is accidental or involuntary, with no choice involved. This mentality can also l...

This is a great article!  I hope I did a lot of these things while raising my children.  I really can't remember!  I hope it will help a lot of you still raising your precious posterity! Building Resilience in Children – 20 Practical, Powerful Strategies (Backed by Science) Posted by  Hey Sigmund All children are capable of extraordinary things. There is no happiness gene, no success gene, and no ‘doer of extraordinary things’ gene. The potential for happiness and greatness lies in all of them, and will mean different things to different kids. We can’t change that they will face challenges along the way. What we can do is give them the skills so these challenges are never able to break them. We can build their resilience.  Resilience is being able to bounce back from stress, challenge, tragedy, trauma or adversity. When children are resilient, they are braver, more curious, more adaptable, and more able to extend their reach...

I was reminded on Facebook that I posted this a year ago today.  It is worth re-reading!  It is  exactly 200 blogs ago!  So I did 200 this last year.  Are we asking the wrong questions? God does not give us power to control our children, only ourselves. This last weekend we had a wonderful Stake Conference.  We had Elder David Bednar, the apostle, and Elder Terry Wade of the 70's.  I took a lot of notes, and I will write about them on this blog probably tomorrow.  But this will give you something to think about until then.  It is very good!  WANT STRESS RELIEF? CHANGE YOUR QUESTIONS By  Darla Isackson  · August 5, 2015, in Meridian Magazine I want to tell you a poignant story I heard first-person from a father I admire and respect. Years ago he gave me permission to share it, but I’ll protect his privacy at this point by changing the father’s...