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This article has some very good insights into why some marriages develop relationship problems!   I hope we aren't like the picture below! Is Change the Key to a Good Marriage? By  Wallace Goddard  · November 13, 2017 Sign up for Meridian’s Free Newsletter, please  CLICK HERE Over time, the things that attracted us to each other start to make us crazy. Two marriage scholars share a story: “Frank’s need for time alone conflicted with Debra’s need for time together. The more he sought independence, the more she pressed for closeness. The more emotional she became, the more he “turned off.” Before long, she began to see his shyness as inadequacy, his careful, deliberate style as boring, and his reluctance to communicate as lack of love. He began to see her emotionality as immaturity, her energetic tempo as exhausting, and her desire for closeness as weakness.” (Christensen & Jacobson,  Reconcil...

Wayne on the left, and Blaine, in the army in 1953-1955. November 12, 2017 Those in the Service SCRIPTURE OF THE DAY Doctrine & Covenants 98:16 "Therefore, renounce war and proclaim peace, and seek diligently to turn the hearts of the children to their fathers, and the hearts of the fathers to the children." QUOTE OF THE DAY Gordon B. Hinckley "May the Lord bless our brethren in the service, wherever they may be, for their faithfulness. May the Lord remind us of the debt of gratitude we owe them, and may he awaken within us a resolution to live worthy of their sacrifice" ("In Grateful Remembrance,"  Ensign , March 1971). Wayne in his uniform for the Austrian winter. DAILY DEVOTIONAL November 10, 2017 Family Influence SCRIPTURE OF THE DAY Doctrine & Covenants 93:40 "But I have commanded you to bring up your children in light and truth...

I am recuperating from a foot operation, so in honor of Veteran's Day I will mostly post photos in this entry, of my husband Wayne and his twin brother Blaine when they were in the army in 1953 to 1955 during the Korean war time, but were in Europe ; my father Orson Pratt Miles who was in World War I, and our son Allen, who was in the Air Force 6 years, and served during Desert Storm as a navigator in a refueling airplane. Wayne in Austria, 1954, with a young son of the Mission President there. Wayne's official Army portrait! And photos above of his army life. Wayne and Blaine with a friend, in California at Fort Ord, in basic training.  When they got home from their missions in Sweden, their draft papers were waiting! Blaine's official Army portrait. Wayne, also another Army portrait. This was Wayne and Blaine while in the army, when they were at an LDS Servicemen's conference, and were able to wear their "civ...

This is the most alarming thing I've read yet!  What is happening to our America and our world?  It is truly the "last days" of freedom and peace -- it seems!  What some people are doing because they feel "unsafe or offended!" “Not Welcome Here”: Alexandria’s Christ Church Bans George Washington; Oxford University Fair Bans Christianity By Maurine Proctor  · November 5, 2017 Sign up for Meridian’s Free Newsletter, please  CLICK HERE Two events in the last weeks seem oddly and unfortunately related and signal a world that is being undone from the foundations up because someone yells, “I feel unsafe.” This is not because someone is actually particularly unsafe, but because this has become a potent tool for the offended. “All are welcome—no exceptions” reads a sign on Christ Church in Alexandria, Virginia, but the congregation doesn’t really mean it. Somebody very specifically is not welcome here any more—our first U.S. president. This ...

Well, I'm back!  After a very fun, exciting, and memorable time!    I have been home for just over 3 days, and been busy catching up on my Family History Mission, (a V-ROC mission -- Virtual Records Operations Center mission -- at home on my own computer).  I committed to a minimum of 8 hours a week, and the week before I left on October 23, I did over 16 hours, to make up for the week I would be gone, and then I needed to do my 8 hours for this week! My son Wayne, and his wife Julie and I left the Monday morning of October 23, at precisely 15 to 8 a.m.  (Wayne has this thing about time -- he likes to plan ahead, and be precise about times!  It's helped keep Julie and me on our toes!)  We arrived at the Gold Coast Hotel in Las Vegas that evening in time for a lovely dinner and concert provided by the Accordion Convention.  The first night Pat Debenham came and sat at our table, and from then on he was our fast friend, always sitting at our ta...