11. IT IS WHAT IT IS, AND WE'LL DEAL WITH IT!

Today, in considering what I'd like to write about, I found this paper I had written on October 4, 2011, two days before I turned 77.  I believe I wrote it for my grandchildren.

                                About Life:    'IT IS WHAT IT IS, AND WE'LL DEAL WITH IT!'

Money isn't the most important thing in life -- people are.  Use money for wise things.  Live within the money you have and save for emergencies.

Thank people who have helped you.  Be appreciative and grateful for parents, family, friends.

Spend time with your family whenever you can, as those days will be gone soon.  Remember family birthdays, Father's and Mother's day, etc.  -- Call or visit, write, also grandparents -- and friends.  If they forget your birthday, etc., call them -- don't brood over it, feeling sorry and resentful.

Don't hold grudges -- and when a person has truly changed, don't bring up their past -- forget it!

Develop your talents.  Some people envy other's talents.  They take time and effort.  Take the time!

Be kind to people you meet everywhere.  You don't know what they're going through.  You may make a huge difference in their lives by smiling, asking about them, showing you respect and like them.  I always told my children the first day of school to watch out for new kids, or people who seem lonely and befriend them.  But choose your BEST friends wisely,  -- those who have the same ideals.  Your friends will make a huge difference in what you do.  Friends seem to do what their friends do.

Don't talk about yourself too much.  The real way to be "popular" is to be interested in, and kind to others, and be sincere about it.  Realize everyone has their story, and their own value, and LISTEN.

DREAM, and then do whatever it takes, even if it takes years.  If one dream doesn't work out, find another one.  Always keep looking toward the future, and don't brood over the past.

The best cure for depression is to help other people -- volunteer, to family, neighbors, etc. and get your thoughts away from yourself.  Depression often is caused by thinking too much about yourself.

Think about and prepare for retirement -- because you'll probably live 80 to 90 years.  Save money, and discipline yourself in what you buy.  Don't buy things on a whim, or that you don't really need.  Avoid going into debt, or using more than one credit card, and when you don't have money--don't spend!

Volunteer whenever you can -- to help others.  Use your time and talents to lift and encourage other people.

Watch your tongue !  Don't say things that hurt others, and that you will regret.  But if you do, be sure and apologize.  Decide what you will do and what you will not do, and don't give in to "dares". etc.

Use your time wisely -- especially your leisure time.  Don't spend too much time playing video games, etc., or watching TV, especially "trash" TV or movies.  Use your time to develop talents, help others, read good books, exercise (to keep your health all your lifetime), play with children, read and study, etc. etc.

As you raise your family, keep up with technology advances, so you'll know what your children are doing.  Stay away from bad music, and addicting substances or practices.  Keep control of your body and mind, and stay away from places or people who try to get you to compromise your values.

Get a good education, but if you can't -- get a job in your specialty and take any job to support yourself, and/or your family.  Realize the world's economy may dictate what you can do for a job.  But always prepare yourself for something better, and be ready when the opportunity comes,

Keep a journal, and then later in life, write your life story and give it to your 
posterity.



Our family, in 1993.  Left to right, Wayne M, Delsy, Anita, Allen, McKay, Angela, Tacy, Pamela, Jeremy
                                      In front, Pal's mother, Ruth, Wayne and Pal

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

2011. “And He Went on His Way Rejoicing”: Mental Health and the Spirit of God By Roger Connors · June 3, 2022, from Meridian Magazine

211. The Palmyra Temple -- The rest of the story -- (History)

471. LDS Church's #IAmAPioneer Campaign Recognizes Past and Present Pioneers. You can contribute your story!